My Story 

I was born in Uganda, and my upbringing was far from ordinary. My mother, just 16 at the time, faced the challenge of raising me alone after my biological father abandoned us. When I was seven, we moved to the UK, settling in Devon.

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Life in England presented its own set of struggles, particularly with racism. I vividly remember being taunted by other children, who would cruelly call me names like "monkey" and even go so far as to eat bananas in front of me during lunchtime.

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Amidst these difficulties, there was also the unexpected revelation that my biological father lived in the UK. My mother, believing it was important for me to know my father, arranged a meeting. Sadly, just before we were scheduled to meet, he passed away.

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In addition to these challenges, I faced academic setbacks, being held back a year upon my arrival in England. This only added to the sense of being an outsider, as I was always the oldest in my class group on my birthday.

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Growing up in a household where Christianity and Islam coexisted, religion played a central role in our lives. Despite this, I often felt like I didn't quite fit in with my family of seven in our three-bedroom council estate home. These early experiences shaped my journey and ignited a desire to explore my identity and purpose in the world.

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Additionally, I never quite found my place or my people while growing up, mainly because I was preoccupied with looking after my brothers and sisters. This path eventually led me to a dark period where I found myself homeless for eight months and struggling with alcoholism. Despite holding various jobs, including earning a substantial income in sales, I reached a breaking point where I attempted to take my own life.

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It wasn't until many years later, after undergoing significant personal transformation through therapy, that a friend's observation sparked a new direction for me. He pointed out how people often confided in me, suggesting that I should write a book or consider a career in counseling or psychotherapy. At the time, I dismissed the idea, believing I lacked the academic background for such professions.

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However, fueled by a desire to make a meaningful impact and inspired by my mother's dream for me to obtain a degree, I embarked on a journey to become a psychotherapist. Little did I know how profoundly this path would alter my life.

 

Now, I find myself passionately dedicated to helping men uncover and overcome the barriers that hinder their success and fulfillment. Through research, writing, and working with young people in schools, I am committed to making a difference in the lives of others. This journey has led me to my current role, where I work with a digital online mental health company while pursuing my training as a psychotherapist.

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My ultimate goal is ambitious yet clear: to write 50 books and impact the lives of a million men. In the meantime, I continue to dedicate myself to supporting individuals in managing their anxiety, stress, and behavior, striving to empower others on their journey toward healing and self-discovery.